
By His Family, Ye Shall Know Him|William Fox, Assoc. Dean for Academic Affairs|Margaret A. King, Associate Dean for Institutional Advancement |David Schrock, Director of Financial Aid
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By His Family, Ye Shall Know Him
By Rev. Raymond C. O'Brien "Hey, how about the new dean? What do you think about him?" |
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He and his aging dog met me at the door and we walked immediately into the kitchen. Everyone was there and a quick glance told you that the life of the house emanated from the kitchen and the adjoining huge family table where the Kmiec children were setting napkins, knives and forks and bowls of vegetables and a goodly amount of chicken. This is a healthy family: lots of good California produce and fat-free dessert. Surely he and his wife are in training for all the dean's official dinners ahead! We began dinner with a prayer; the dean led us in the blessing, all eight of us and the dog. Afterwards bowls kept passing back and forth, the Kmiec third oldest kept my diet coke filled, the two youngest popped up and down to retrieve something or the other, we laughed a lot, and everyone talked at the same time. It was a family; I loved it!
After dinner I expected a quiet conversation with the dean when we would discuss the solemn responsibilities facing him, just the dean and I, like priest-penitent. Instead, still sitting at the head of the table he asked: "Father, we were planning to play some cards. Would you care to join us?" Now for those unfamiliar with clergy etiquette, let me share with you that this is not usual HAVING FATHER TO DINNER routine. But I was having a great time and while I said I would be delighted I quickly took mental stock of how much money I had brought, whether I remembered poker rules from college, and whether it would be polite to win. Or maybe I would lose? Perhaps this was the start of the dean's fund raising efforts. The youngest of the Kmiec children, twin girls about to enter the seventh grade and possessing more personality than the April Cherry Blossom parade, produced the playing cards, a scoring pad and the rules. This was not to be poker. Instead we were to make words with letters on the cards and each letter had a different number; weird letters had higher numbers and thus a higher score. Wow! I thought, I may lose this! This was a family that had just analyzed the recent Supreme Court decisions that day; I did not see a television anywhere; where was the pervasive music that engulfed every California event; I wonder if they will let me use Latin words. We started. |
I think the dean got the first word, some arcane word that he probably read during a snow storm in Indiana. I should have challenged. But the oldest Kmiec child, one now in his first year of law school in California seemed stumped and the dean's wife kept shuffling her cards back and forth. There was hope for me. Maybe. Just then I hear a voice. The second Kmiec child, a daughter who works outside Los Angeles in corporate communications whispered a word in my ear which incorporated most of my cards. Hey! She was looking at my hand. But she was right and it was my turn and I was on the map with a respectable word and lots of points. The kindness of strangers! It became apparent to me that cards at the Kmiecs was not about winning, it was about having a good time and the best news is that I won. I would like to say that I beat everyone, but that is not true. The eldest Kmiec child asked to be excused in the middle of the game so he could greet high tide across the street surfing in the Pacific. Just wait until he comes home next summer for August in Washington. |

